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My wife and I have been married for 10yrs and she has never mentioned this guys as a individual in her life like “her brother” They guys has contacted her and wants to here back and when I answered back with some concerns, I was yelled at like I should have no problems with anything she does with past friends that I have never heard of (for 10 yrs)
May 24th, 2009 at 8:32 am
if she gets defensive - then she is hiding something…
you sound like a level headed guy.
My bf demands i tell him who i speak to (if they are male), or even if there is a guy i know who is ie, going to be on the same train as me, i have to tell him everything. hehe i love the posessivness.
but like i said - it sounds strange. I would only not mention him if i was doing something behind your back.
May 26th, 2009 at 6:47 pm
Meh…for some reason I started contacting all my high school friends (male and female) to see how they turned out. Some of them I probably said they were like a brother/sister and that is how I felt about them back then…sometimes time seems to stand still for your caring about someone.
Perhaps what she says is true and she feels only sibling affection….give her the benefit of the doubt but watch the situation..if she sneaks around or won’t let you meet him, then something may be going on.
May 28th, 2009 at 3:34 am
I don’t think this is an “old friend”.
I think this is a “new friend”, and she’s covering up.
Generally speaking, though, I don’t think you should be uncomfortable about normal email contact between your wife and another guy, and I do feel that she should be able to have email friendships. However, this should NEVER be at the expense of her relationship with you! Your concerns and misgivings should be her number one priority. The fact that she was so defensive about this email contact when you confronted her would really ring alarm bells for me. If it’s all innocent, then it should only ever be an easy, relaxed topic open for discussion. I’d be watching her very closely if I was you.
If she’s not willing to heed your concerns and continues to disrespect you, then I would be quietly furious. Quietly! Don’t alert her that you’re so suspicious … wait and watch.
Good luck.