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I can tell he has a crush on me (gut instinct). We are obsessed with emailing each other, but nothing inappropriate is said in the emails, except we call each other nicknames (big deal) and joke around a bit. The emails are mainly about politics as we’re really into the campaign. In my opinion, if his wife saw the emails, she wouldn’t think anything was wrong with them. However, he emails me within seconds and sometimes often, even at home. I don’t know if his wife would approve of that? He has asked me to lunch in those emails, too. If I was the wife, I would have to say I would be jealous, as I’m a jealous person, but if the emails aren’t inappropriate, what is the harm? She knows I’m his coworker, as we briefly met once. She didn’t act like she knew we were friends and he only introduced me as his coworker.
February 27th, 2010 at 11:37 pm
Oh yes, she will be mad. I would be mad, personally. Even if I knew you were a coworker. That doesn’t matter. You are still a woman. And within seconds, yeah I would totally be mad.
March 2nd, 2010 at 4:23 am
You should stop playing this game immediately. If you want to flirt, find a single man to flirt with.
March 2nd, 2010 at 9:59 pm
If you know he likes you then you need to stop. If you dont feel the same you are leading him on. If you do feel the same you need to find a man who isnt married to email.
March 6th, 2010 at 2:06 am
This is a dangerous route you’re on…be careful girl you obviously have feelings for him too.
March 7th, 2010 at 11:01 pm
Come off it M’s INNOCENT You know very well that you are encouraging this man. Let it go.
March 11th, 2010 at 3:06 am
Stop emailing him it will lead to something more & you know it just stop its kind of wrong because i personally think hes trying to take it to a next Level.
March 14th, 2010 at 4:02 pm
Obviously, there IS something inappropriate going on. If there weren’t you wouldn’t feel the need to ask this question. Ask yourself how YOU would feel if you were his wife. You have the answer already.
March 16th, 2010 at 5:26 pm
i would definitely be jealous, i don’t even approve of my husband taking female coworkers to lunch unless i know they are older than him and ugly and not his type
March 19th, 2010 at 1:30 pm
You yourself are aware that it’s flirtatious and a little too enthusiastic for a mere friendship. Letting that continue already crosses a line, you don’t have to crawl under his desk to be doing something wrong.
March 21st, 2010 at 12:06 pm
i doubt if his wife would be okay with this, because he is using time that belongs to her, focusing it on u.if my husband was doing this i would not feel comfortable.
March 23rd, 2010 at 5:46 pm
You know best exactly what the relationship between you and this guy is like, and if you think you would be upset, the right thing to do would be to try to simmer it back. Whether you do or not is your choice, but that’s one way to look at it.
March 26th, 2010 at 10:15 am
Put an end to it.
March 27th, 2010 at 2:04 pm
I have been married for several years and often email with male co workers and friends who are married men. It is all on the up and up. My husband also has friends that are female the only problem I ever had is he once told a female friend about my”toy” collection. But we talked about it and we have no problems. Maybe you should ask him if his wife has a problem with it. Sometimes luch just means lunch.
March 28th, 2010 at 12:33 pm
Don’t make a mountain out of a mole hill. Stop reading something into the situation that’s not really there You are just his co-worker.He must love his wife he is there with her, As you stated you are just emailing back and fourth.
March 28th, 2010 at 10:38 pm
Megtc took the words right out of my mouth!
March 31st, 2010 at 11:04 am
Well put yourself in her shoes. Would you like your husband emailing his co worker he’s spends most of the with while apart from his wife?, I don’t think it’s okay. If you want to ease a little stress at the work place then it’ll be okay to joke a little, but once it goes out of work and into the home, you nor him should think about work while your not at work. I personally think it’s disrespectful. Don’t dig yourself a hole you can’t climb out of.
April 2nd, 2010 at 3:21 pm
The question is how would you feel as a jealous woman if the shoe was on the other foot.
You know yourself, this could lead to something that should never happen.
April 4th, 2010 at 5:38 am
If you wouldn’t want some woman doing this to your marriage, why is it ok to do it to hers? Stop it. Get a man who is available.
April 5th, 2010 at 4:02 pm
Yes, his wife would be mad. If you can tell he has a crush on you, then why are you emailing him. Your leading him on and giving him the vibes that your okay with the situation. Find a single guy to email and leave the married one alone.